Exactly How I Feel

I just came across this wonderfully written post at Mommybloggers. It was written by Meghan from I’m Ablogging…it’s about the guilt she experiences from being a working mother. The whole time I was reading I was thinking “that’s exactly how I feel. That’s it! I’ve always felt like that. Yes, I agree. Absolutely!”

Meghan managed to write what I have been feeling since Zeenee was 6 months old and I had to put her in daycare and go back to work…since I had to put Anabella in daycare at 6 months old and go back to work…since I had to put Budgie in daycare at 6 months old and go back to work…14 years of guilt rolled up in a giant snowball that’s heading down a steep hill. That guilt doesn’t go away…ever…

My kids are all in school full days now and I STILL want to be there for them.

…and this paragraph made me say AMEN:

Is anyone talking about how incredibly hard it is to raise a family and own home with one income? How it keeps getting HARDER? Is anyone talking about how we can help families with limited financial means stay home with their kids? Is anyone talking about women who earn more than their husbands? How these women can handle the incredible amount of guilt they carry for not being the one who has the biggest influence on their children’s day to day activities? For not knowing what their kids had for lunch and how many times they have pooped that day?

Thanks Meghan…for saying it…

Desperate to be a Housewife

Time until I’m back with my family: 5 hours, 26 minutes

Laundry List: Oh lots, but at least I got off my butt last night and vacuumed and cleaned the living room, bathroom, hallway and catbox (so she wouldn’t scratch my eyes out…“every two days lady or I end you” says Pizza Maria)…so less cleaning for Saturday…that’s always good.

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2 responses to this post.

  1. I read something recently (can’t remember where) that talked about the economic situation in industrialized countries right now as being the “Katrina effect.” Meaning that the dike of wages is leveling out (wage stagnation in high-wage countries while wages rise–slightly–in low-wage countries). I don’t think that’s exactly how I’d describe it right now, but it’s definitely true that more and more people in industrialized countries are feeling squeezed.

  2. How true!!! I stopped working right after I have my second baby but before that I have a huge guilt with my eldest child because of ‘my failure’ to be there with her plus she was starting to show some problem signals!!!! I felt guilty all the time and the only reason I was able to stop working id because I negotiated a generous severance package (lucky me!!!), so that will have to do for the next 3 years or until I get my permit to work again…whatever happens first! A good friend who has worked forever with 2 kids told me when I got pregnant: “get ready for the guilt cycle, you’ll feel guilty for leaving your kids and feel guilty for not doing more at work, and feel guilty for not beeing there for your friends, and feel guilty and on and on and on”….I’ll be in your shoes in a couple of years unless I get the lottery!!!!

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